You Are Not the Only One in Keller Dealing With This

If you found this page, you have probably been telling yourself for a while that this is not really a problem.

The first thing worth knowing is that you are not alone. A lot of men are struggling with this, including men in your neighborhood and in the pew next to you on Sunday. And a lot of them have found real freedom from it, which is harder to believe when you are in the middle of it.

You also do not have to arrive with a label. Some men call and tell me they think they are a sex addict. That is not an assessment I am making about you, and it is not something you need to have settled before you reach out. What matters is that something has a hold on you that you want to be free of.

Why Men Drive From Keller to Fort Worth for This

Our office at 3509 Hulen St in Fort Worth is about a 25 minute drive from Keller, and many of our clients make that drive on purpose. What they find here is a practice led by a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist offering porn and sex addiction counseling from a distinctly Christian framework, which is not something available in Keller itself.

Clifton Hickman, LPC, CSAT has worked with this specific struggle across five years of clinical practice, with ongoing supervision from therapists who have seen far more of it. The CSAT credential is held by fewer than 5,000 therapists worldwide, and very few of those bring an explicitly Christian lens to the work.

We also have a second clinician who specializes in this issue, which is unusual for a practice our size. On your consultation call we will tell you which of us is the better fit for what you are dealing with, before you book rather than after.

Keller Is a Small Town, and That Makes This Harder

We understand why some men would rather not walk into a counseling office anywhere near home.

Keller is close-knit, family-centered, and heavily churched, and that is part of what makes this struggle so isolating. You might be serving at church on Sunday morning while hiding a phone habit that is slowly taking over your life. The fear of being seen, of someone recognizing your car or your face in a parking lot, keeps men stuck in silence for years.

That fear is worth naming, because it is usually not the counseling itself that stops men from calling. It is the imagined walk from the car to the door.

What Actually Happens in the First Session

The first session is not what most men picture.

It is not an interrogation, and you will not be asked to lay out every detail of what you have done. The purpose of the questions is not to shame you. It is to understand you, and those are very different things.

There are some practical questions: how often this is happening, what specifically you are struggling with, when you have had the most success against it. But most of the first session is about your story. Pornography is a symptom of a much deeper reality, and we do not just treat symptoms. We treat the whole person sitting in the room.

So there is interest in your porn story, and there is equal interest in your life story, because the things in your life are playing a role in this struggle whether or not you have connected them yet.

Coming in for a first session about this is nerve-wracking. That is normal, and it is understood. The goal of that first hour is that you leave feeling cared for, understood, and less alone than when you walked in.

Sessions take place at our main office, and you can read more about our porn addiction counseling in Fort Worth there.

What We Actually Do About the Behavior

There is a two-prong approach to this work, and the first prong is straightforward: helping you stop acting out. That is what you are coming in for, so that is where we start.

Part of being wise about this issue is knowing honestly what you can handle and what you cannot. Maybe you cannot handle taking your phone into the bathroom. Maybe you cannot handle unrestricted internet access and you need a filtering system. Maybe you cannot handle trying to manage all of this on your own, and that last one is close to universal. Nobody beats this alone.

So we put real structure in place: accountability relationships, filtering and monitoring where it helps, group support where it fits.

Confession to someone other than your therapist matters here too. Jay Stringer's research found that heavy porn use drops meaningfully when a man has even one person he talks to about it regularly. You do not have to tell everyone. But bringing it into the light with someone, rather than managing it privately, is what changes the trajectory.

Talking to a counselor helps with that. A counselor should not be the only one.

When You Relapse

Most men in recovery relapse at some point, and how that gets handled largely determines whether recovery continues.

Three things happen when it does.

We grieve it. Not minimizing, not catastrophizing, just honestly acknowledging the loss of sobriety and letting yourself feel it. Many men who struggle with addiction do not know how to enter into sadness, which is often exactly why pornography became the place to numb it. Learning to grieve is part of the actual work.

We understand it. What led up to it, what was going on underneath, what could be different next time.

We find hope in it. A relapse is not the end of the road, and it does not mean all is lost. It is part of the journey for most men. Christ enters into this with you. He is not ashamed of you, He knew you would struggle with it, and He still calls you to keep fighting against it.

This is the same approach we take with every client at our Fort Worth practice, whether they come from Keller or across the street.

Counseling From Home, if You Would Rather Not Drive In

For men who would rather not be seen walking into a counseling office anywhere, we offer secure telehealth counseling to clients throughout Texas, so you can begin this work from the privacy of your own home or office.

Whether in person or online, the first step is the same: a free 15 minute phone consultation to see if we are the right fit. You do not have to have it all figured out before you call.

Common Questions From Keller Clients

What actually happens on the free 15 minute call?

Mostly listening. You get to say what is going on and ask whatever is on your mind, and you get honest answers. There is no pressure to commit to anything on that call. If you are comfortable with it, we will also share this from a Christian perspective: Jesus wants to change you, He promises He will, and He is not ashamed of you. Many men have come out of situations more dire than yours and found freedom. So can you.

Will anyone find out I am coming here?

No. Counselors are bound by confidentiality, and nothing gets shared with anyone, including your church, your employer, or your family, without your written release of information. There are a small number of legally required exceptions, such as certain situations involving abuse or immediate danger to life, and those are laid out in the informed consent paperwork you review before your first session. Outside of those, what you say here stays here.

I do not want to tell my wife. Can I still come?

Yes. That decision is yours, and you will be seen either way. But you will also hear honest counsel about it, which is this: hidden struggles cost you intimacy, and secrets are usually where the shame that fuels the behavior lives. There has never been a case in this practice where keeping it hidden long-term worked out well. When a wife eventually discovers it, and she usually does, the damage is not only the behavior. It is the years of wondering what else was a lie. Telling her earlier is painful. Telling her later is worse. There is more on why this pattern is so common, and how partial disclosure makes it worse, here.

Do you see clients from Keller and Southlake?

Yes. We regularly serve men and couples from Keller, Southlake, Watauga, North Richland Hills, and across Northeast Tarrant County, both in person at our Fort Worth office and through telehealth.

Is telehealth counseling as effective for porn addiction recovery?

For many clients, yes. The core work of recovery, honesty, processing the roots of the addiction, and building new patterns, translates well to secure video sessions. Some men open up more readily from a familiar, private space. Telehealth also removes the barrier that keeps many men from starting at all.

Is there a group I could join?

Yes. Clifton leads an in-person men's group for porn and sex addiction at the Fort Worth office. Group provides something individual counseling cannot: being in a room with men further along than you are. Many men do both.

Will I be working with a CSAT?

Clifton Hickman is our Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and sees adults and couples for this work. We also have a second clinician who specializes in porn and sex addiction but does not hold the CSAT credential. We will be clear with you on the consultation call about who you would be seeing.

Do you work with adults only?

Yes. This practice serves adults and couples 18 and over.

Book a session with us today!